Dearest Chelly,
It's hard to know how you're feeling and so I don't really know what advice I can give you. All I can do is give you examples of my relationship and see whether you can relate or not. I've been with Chuck for a very long time now, and I can honestly say that I Love Him. Also, I have planned my furture with him as well. For example, we plan to move into my brother's girlfriends house in chino hills in Late July. (I know that it may sound crazy, but there's a lot to the story and I really just want to get the point.) So, Chuck and I went on a break in March, it was entirely my idea, and he didn't want it at all. He didn't know why I did it but I let him know my intensions was to get back together. I was not planning on talking to anyone or anything like that. I simply just felt like we needed the space apart. And of course he didn't understand but I couldn't really give him a better explanation. It was just a feeling I had. I felt that our relationship was getting to complicated and we knew it was based on our insecurities. I felt that if we continued on it would just grow worse. At first he was furious and said a lot of things that hurt but then he calmed down and was more understanding and apologized for the things he said. That made it so much easier for me. The fact that he was understanding allowed me to calm down and know that I'm not going on a break because I'm mad but because it will help our relationship. During our break, I did talk to a guy, but there was nothing more than talking. I was just trying to figure out what guys were like, whether they were all the same, and what made Chuck differ from others. Our break lasted 2 - 3 weeks and I realized that Chuck is a good guy. Someone that I can bring home and marry and not have to worry about. I found out that all guys are not the same and it made me appreciate Chuck more. Since the break we appreciate each other a lot more and we aren't as insecure because we both had the chance to see what was out there and we know that no one else is better.
So I hope that you and Dan can learn from this break and realize that no one out there could be better. But, if either of you find someone, just know that it happend for a reason. You have to give it a shot...I know it's scary to think you can lose the one you love...but, if you guys stayed together and continued to argue...it would have been a lot worse.
I'm Here For You Always,
Kathy